Positive and Negative Words

Why the 5-to-1 Ratio Works

Why do many of us remember all the negative things (in detail) that our spouse did or said from the beginning of the relationship until today? Why do we remember critical remarks more than positives ones? Why can’t a critical remark simply be erased by a positive remark? Why can’t a big bouquet of roses from him or a coveted ticket to his favorite sporting event from her make up for several things that caused hurt feelings? There is a reason. No, it’s not just a woman thing. You can blame it on the brain. Read more »

September 30th, 2010 | 0 Comments | View or add comments

Why We Tend To Marry Opposites

July 2010 – Personality Pixels

Snapshots of The Personalities

Why We Tend to Marry Opposites

The same — but different?

Most people tend to marry someone with a personality opposite from their own. We are usually attracted to people with qualities and strengths different from ours. A simplified explanation is that we see in them traits we would like to have—and they see that in us.

How does it happen?
Remember the famous philosopher in the movie, Rocky? He explained it clearly in a few words. When asked about his relationship with Adrian, the girl he was going to marry, Rocky quickly answered:

She’s got gaps, I got gaps; together we fill gaps.
– Rocky Balboa

We perceive that the other person has what we need. They fill in our gaps
We usually marry the person who we sense has some of what we don’t. Read more »

July 20th, 2010 | 0 Comments | View or add comments

Welcome to: Cups and Conversations

Cups and Conversations just seem to go together, don’t they? Enjoying hot chocolate, coffee, broth, or tea can represent friendship, laughs, maybe tears, fun times or serious decisions. It can mean making memories —or seeking and sharing advice and wisdom.

Do you have a cherished memory that began over a cup of coffee?

It may have taken place around a campfire, in a restaurant or coffee shop, at a kitchen table gazing at a garden scene, or snow flakes falling, or even in a conference room.

Your Cups and Conversations memory may stem from times you spent with a sister, brother, parent, son or daughter, husband, wife, neighbors, colleagues, or with a special someone in your life. Read more »

July 12th, 2010 | 1 Comments | View or add comments